Questions regarding male gender roles (and by ociation, my GWS career for the last 15 months)?

Why do you ume it's "society" that makes men be the initiator and agressor? Testosterone is what conjures up aggression, and men have more of it than women. I'm not saying it has "nothing" to do with society and expected gender roles, but I must say that it has more to do with nature rather than nurture. You expect women to be the initiator and aggressor with you when most women are simply not built that way. Take me for example: I don't even think about approaching men, ever. It's just not who I am, and has nothing to do with society - I don't feel that I "can't" approach a man, I just lack the desire. Period. I don't know how you expect women to change to suit your needs. Kinda self-centered thinking you have - "the world doesn't revolve around you". There are women out there that are the type you seek, but they're a minority, so you'll just have to wait for one to come along... In the meantime, stop waiting for it and stop obsessing over this, because as with a lot of things in life, when you stop looking, you find it. As soon as you stop thinking about it, whatever you are waiting for will come to you. It's a good idea you have there about going to social events with people who have common interests, you're luck might be better there, because then maybe a woman would have a reason to talk to you instead of just because she thinks you're hot and wants to get to know you. That reminds me of another thing.... men are hard-wired to be stimulated visually more than women are, women are hard-wired to be stimulated emotionally more than men are. Therefore, it's easier for men to be interested in a woman just by looking than it is for a woman to be interested in a man just by looking, so guess who's going to approach who first? The man will approach the woman. Then, depending on how the man approaches the woman and through conversation, the woman will decide whether she's interested or not. I'm sorry, you can't change how we are hard-wired. Good luck to you.